Divorce
Divorce used to be a taboo word in American society. It was a rarity for someone to actually divorce. Church’s would actually shun you for getting a divorce if there wasn’t a good enough reason. In the past people actually paid attention to the part that says, “from death do us part”, when they got married. Now divorce has become just as common as getting married. Church’s now are accepting of divorce. In the 1950’s for someone to get a divorce was the talk of the town. Divorce meant that something earth shaking has happened in the relationship and there is no possible way for the two to stay together. Even gay men and women are already seeking divorce. The first gay divorce occurred only seven months after their marriage. Even a community of people who had fought for years for the right to marry are now divorcing. Marriage itself has become a mediocre joke with people marrying others in order to stay in the country. The entire idea of marriage has become a joke and for the few who do still respect marriage, they are bombarded by ads for divorce lawyers everywhere they turn. Divorce has become just as common as marriage. There are men and women in the United States who have been married several times and divorced just as many. Even our celebrity icons are constantly getting married and divorcing. Mickey Rooney has had eight wives and the ever famous has had eight husbands. The Guinness Book of World Records holds Linda Essex as the woman with the most husbands and divorces. She holds the record at 23 husbands. The sanctity of marriage barely exists anymore. Most couples forget their vows, especially the part “till death do us part”. All couples have problems and have fights but what is the point of getting married when a couple decides to break up at the first sign of trouble. A couple who really wants to make it work will do whatever it takes to make it work. Most couples begin to fight and eventually hate each other because they don’t know how to communicate. Eventually it becomes to much and they cowardly retreat and divorce. A truly committed couple would stop at nothing to get help and save the marriage. Luckily today it is much easier to find that help. Today there are many options in couples counseling. There are retreats, couples counseling, group therapy, therapy and marriage counseling. All of which are valid and proven methods to begin a healing process and renew what brought the couple together in the first place. Sometimes a third party view is what is needed to view the problems from an outside view. A good counselor should be completely unbiased and open to suggestion and interpretation. Once the counselor understands the issues they can begin to open up non-hostile channels of communication. There are thousands of couples who owe their marriages to going to marriage counseling. Sometimes all that’s needed is a facilitator to stopped the angry fights and let in true, real communication.